5 Ways to Better Connect With Your Grandchildren

“If we grandparent our own children, we will be truly great mothers and fathers.”

Oliver Demille, The Phases of Learning

Grandparenting is the culmination of our entire life and ultimately our purpose. Grandparents aren’t just influencing their own grandchildren, they influence their grandchild’s whole world – who they marry, who they work for, what they go to school for and where… it doesn’t mean that they show up on dates or interact with their bosses (could you imagine?).  The essence of grandparenting is having an impact on the world around us for good. Grandparents set up the world for children to thrive.

You already know this, but homes used to be multi-generational. That was a thing until the mid-1900s.  Our grandparents didn’t generally live on their own, or if they did live in their own home they were on the same property as their children and grandchildren. Grandchildren had continual access to their grandparents. 

Is that how you grew up?

We parent and grandparent differently. Grandparents are better at noticing that a child may not need a scolding, but maybe just a hug. Grandparents are more patient and in tune with what a grandchild needs. 

Take my own father, for example. The story among his children was that he was tough on us… “there was no give or take, we got in trouble for certain things, he held the line, etc.. but the grandkids, on the other hand, were dealt a softer hand.” Was that really the case? Was he really softer or was it that with age, my father was more mature in the way he interacted with people? Yes, he was more patient and understanding. It’s not that he never chided a grandchild, but after the chiding, he followed up in a different way than when he was a young father. 

Dear Grandparents, as you positively engage, you build trust. When there is trust and connection, there is influence. If you ever worry that your grandchildren don’t know you or won’t remember you, do something about it! You can put as much or as little effort into your relationships as you can manage. As I reflect on my relationship and memories of my own grandparents, and as a mother of 6, I’m here to tell you that every interaction matters. 

I have come up with 5 suggestions of ways you can better connect with your grandchildren, even if you live far away. Some of these will require figuring out a little bit of technology – but I know you can do it, you found this blog post didn’t you? Your grandchildren will feel closer to you as you “speak their language”, so to speak.

1. Cook Together

Foundational memories are made in the kitchen. Family traditions and connection happens around food. It’s more than a great excuse to spend time together, food and cooking is a very foundational aspect of all human life and experience. We connect so much to food, so having memories of cooking with grandma and grandpa can influence a strong relationship to food. 

So cook together whenever you can. It can be a healthy meal or a favorite dessert. Retell the stories of times youve made that meal in the past. Children may not remember every detail you share, but they will remember how they feel when they’re around you.  

To make this work long distance…

Handwrite, or type up, a simple recipe and mail it (what kid doesn’t love getting mail?) You could also order a children’s cookbook from Amazon and have it delivered. Remember to add a personalized note! 

Next time you’re on the phone with your grandchild, or when you use messaging apps like Facetime or Marco Polo, ask her what her favorite food is. Favorite ice cream? Favorite meal? Does he like sea food? Has he ever tried gumbo? Can you imagine the conversations this could spark? 

2. Color Together

I’ve noticed that some of my children are extra chatty while coloring, something about doing something with their hands while they talk, helps some kids stay focused. This is a special time to have conversation and to create together. You could teach them about colors and techniques and share stories about your childhood. A bonus is that your grandkids might think you’re pretty cool if you’re willing to listen to them talk all about mermaids or superheroes while you color those pages. 

To make this work long distance…

Color together over a video call. You could get two of the same coloring books from the Dollar Tree, or Amazon and send one. Find a time to color together while on a video call. Facetime, Google Meet, Facebook or Zoom are all great options. Kids love to show off what they’ve made, if they sent their coloring page to you, you could proudly display it on your refrigerator (any kid would LOVE that!)

3. Read Together

Reading together is another foundational piece of a child’s development. As a homeschooling family, we know that if we read together an hour a day – that is more than enough to impact their education, their thought process, and for them to be able to learn to read proficiently. 

When you read together, it is a shared adventure- a shared journey. You get to discuss and connect. Talk about what impacted you, and what you love about the story. Don’t underestimate the importance of talking about and discussing what you read! The discussion really helps develop how they perceive the world, and develop their character and who they want to be based on the characters you’re reading about. 

To make this work long distance…

• You can order books or use an app that allows you to read together like, Caribu or Together.
• Send them a copy of your favorite books that they might like. Or order 2 copies (one for each of you) and read along together on a video call app.
• If you’re feeling extra adventurous, audio record or video yourself reading the book and send it to her to watch. 

Do you have a favorite children’s book you would love to pass on? I’d love to hear what is it… 

4. Plant Seeds Together

Working alongside grandparents develops those foundational core memories that will be with them for the rest of their lives, memories that they can look back on that teach work ethic and develop character and connection. 

There is science behind working with your hands specifically,

“When we use our hand for complex real-world tasks, it starts a neurological chain reaction which causes the reward part of our brain to release dopamine and serotonin… Even more compelling is that this type of manual activity may stimulate the production of brand new brain cells.”

Jill Winger, Old Fashioned on Purpose

Being able to go through the planting process with your grandchild also gives you something to discuss. How are your seeds doing? What do they look like? Mine are doing this… Let’s go weed the garden. Inside of us it creates memories, and when the children remember the work they did, it will evoke those positive emotions and give them a positive experience with hard work and work ethic. 

This is also teaching them to wait for satisfaction. This takes time and patience, but the reward is so great when they get to enjoy the fruit (or flower) of their labor. What a confidence boost for them that they can say “I did this! This wasn’t easy and I waited a long time and grandpa or grandma walked me through this and we did it together!” 

To make this work long distance…

This doesn’t have to be a big garden in the yard it can be done in something like a little cup. 

You can send them a list of supplies they’ll need to gather, send them a seed-growing kit from Amazon, or take what you have on hand and put a package together. What kid wouldn’t love that? Once they have what they need, you can share a YouTube video they can watch to learn how to plant and care for the seed or you could also FaceTime and show them how to plant the seed.

This is the perfect chance to communicate and connect with your grandchild. When you call and talk to them you can have a conversation about how it’s going. “Show me your plant, is it dry? Let’s see the soil”, etc… This will give you both something to look forward to and accomplish together.

5. Teach Them An Outdoor Activity

Children need play! This all comes back to the memories we’re creating, the influence we get to have, and the conversations that come up while connecting. 

Children learn the best when they are physically doing and talking. They retain it longer, and developmentally, their recall is so much quicker. Getting out in the sun and nature helps boost those natural, happy hormones. Vitamin D and fresh air are amazing for us health-wise.

This is a chance to laugh together and be goofy! Outdoor games create more memories that will remind them of you when they play them in the future (maybe with their own children!) On top of it all, when you have that kind of connection, the likelihood that they will seek you when they need advice will significantly increase. 

To make this work long distance…

You can send things to your grandchildren, encouraging them to have fun outside. Children of all ages enjoy balloons, rubber balls, sidewalk chalk, or bubbles.

Technology is such a great thing! You can send videos of you doing the thing you want to teach them. (Throwing a baseball, or doing a cartwheel). They can send you videos back to show you how they’re doing at it! Encourage them to send YouTube videos to YOU of activities they’re interested in that you can discuss. 

I really hope you feel the importance of the role grandparents play, and that children need you. They need your wisdom; like when to plant tomatoes and what to look for in a spouse. They need your love and approval – you’re a safe place for them to build their self-esteem, navigate social interaction, and learn how to trust. They need to hear your perspective and the stories of your history -they need to know where they come from.   

I’d love to continue this conversation with you… Which of these activities sounds like something you would do? Which one do you think your grandchild would enjoy? 

Avoid Resolution Burnout and Become a Better Version of Yourself this Year.

Why the heck do we even set new year resolutions? After a few weeks most of us quit going to the local gym, or realize it’s too hard to change a bad habit. Maybe we just set too many and aim for perfection and feel defeated when we fall short, instead of perhaps, aiming for over-all improvement, instead. 

What if we look at new years resolution as a way to give us direction for how we want to improve our lives and grow as an individual? Or as physical ways to measure our discipline and commitment? 

Like most people, I used to think of all the things I wanted to change in my life, and felt like January 1st was a clean slate for the new year and a great time to create better habits. I used to get really excited with the New Year coming up, and I would set a LOT of goals… after all, I had the whole year to work on them, right? I was going to exercise more, lift heavier weights, do this more, add some more of that, stop doing this, etc… After a few weeks, maybe even months, I would burn out, lose focus, the original excitement and the dopamine hits would drop each time I didn’t follow-through. Then I would finally quit most of my new year resolutions altogether. Does this sound familiar?

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However, each year there seemed to be 1 or 2 resolutions that would stick with me and I would be really successful at them, and sometimes even surpass the goal I set. Over time, I recognized a few things that helped me achieve my goals and have continued to use them because they really work!  

If you’re considering setting new year resolutions, I want you to set goals for YOU; resolutions that feel good and aren’t just “shoulds”. When someone says the word “goal”, how does it make you feel? What comes to mind? If you notice that you’re resisting it – then don’t set that goal!

You might have goals related to your weight, nutrition, or being more present as a mother, maybe you want to stop yelling, and feel more connected in your marriage. Do you want to call family members more often, spend less time on your phone, read more, connect with God more, stop certain bad habits, or have a better house cleaning system? How does it feel just thinking about all of those things? Do you notice the mental/emotional weight of trying to carry it all?

If you’re like me, then you probably want…

Better balance being a mother, wife, and yourself. 

Quality connection with your children, family, and self.

Improved health to be able to do, or continue doing, the things you want to do. 

The best tip I have for setting new years resolutions is to take the time to set them and ask God. 

Here’s how I do it, and I think this will help you too.

1. Find some quiet time and sit by yourself. This could be in the car, in the bathroom, or when you first wake up. Sit with yourself and notice what comes to your mind.
2. Ask God, “What is one or two things I can do, or focus on, that will effect ALL the areas I want to improve?” Then listen/pay attention to what comes to you. You might be listening for days or it might come real quick! You will know what is right for you as you sit with it and feel it harmonize with who you are and what you want. 
3. Ask yourself and God, “How do I want to feel over the next year?” For me, in the last few years it has come as a single word. I made that my word for the year. Each month I think about that word, and how I want to feel, and then 1-3 things come to mind that I can focus on that month. Then, I break those down into actionable steps. _{For Example: Last year my word was Balance. At the beginning of each month I took some quiet time and “listened” for the things that came to my mind that I would work on. One month was cleaning up my thoughts around money. The actionable steps were to notice when I spoke negatively, forgive myself and then reframe the sentence. The other was to practice joy when I needed to do bookkeeping and not think it was a burden.}

I think what happens is, when we set a whole bunch of resolutions at the beginning of the year, it is overwhelming because there are SO many steps to accomplish each goal. Plus, they are usually such big goals that it takes many smaller goals to help us actually achieve what we really want. Doing this process helps simplify our desires in a way that is true to who we are. When you take the time to listen to yourself and God (He knows you best!), a lot of the other things like relationships and opportunities fall into place. 

Once you have a few goals set along the lines to have better balance, quality connection, or improved health, you’ll want some resources to teach and support you throughout the year! 

I want to share a few resources that will help you…

Nutrition Resources:

• Study Wise Traditions 11 Principles – Everything that traditional peoples did with their food resulted in the maximization of nutrients—from their agricultural practices to their food choices, to their preparation techniques. We can do the same with our modern diets—it just requires care in purchasing our foods and attention to detail when we prepare them. 
• Wise traditions podcast – The Wise Traditions podcast is for those who seek optimal health based on ancient wisdom. We believe that vibrant health cannot be cultivated in a lab, engineered through modern technology or found through “improving” nature. On the contrary, “life in all its fullness is Mother Nature obeyed,” as Dr. Price put it. We thrive when we live as our ancestors did, and we can look to the past for clues on how to go about it.
• Elisa at Best Me Coaching – 1:1 Coaching Sessions, Personalized wellness coaching tailored to help you achieve your weight and fitness goals. With personalized meal plans and personalized fitness guidance, you will be provided a roadmap and support to unlock your best self.

Nutrition Books:

• Carnivore Cure by Judy Cho –  Carnivore Cure provides a step-by-step approach to optimal health while also providing extensive nutritional information and evidence-based support for following a meat-based lifestyle (with hundreds of colored visuals and coveted Nutrition with Judy nutritional graphics). Carnivore Cure debunks nutritional misinformation and provides lifestyle support through the lens of holistic health.
• The Big Fat Surprise by Nina Teicholz – For decades, Americans have cut back on red meat and dairy products full of “bad” saturated fats. We obediently complied with nutritional guidelines to eat “heart healthy” fats found in olive oil, fish, and nuts, and followed a Mediterranean diet heavy on fruits, vegetables, and grains. Yet the nation’s health has declined. What is going on?
• Toxic Superfoods by Sally Norton – A complete, research-backed program to safely reverse your oxalate load. In this groundbreaking guide, Norton reveals that the popular dictum to “eat more plants” can be misleading. Toxic Superfoods gives health-seekers a chance for improved energy, optimum brain performance, graceful aging, and true relief from chronic pain.
•  Nutrition And Physical Degeneration by Weston A Price – An epic study demonstrating the importance of whole food nutrition, and the degeneration and destruction that comes from a diet of processed foods. For nearly 10 years, Weston Price and his wife traveled around the world in search of the secret to health. Instead of looking at people afflicted with disease symptoms, this highly-respected dentist and dental researcher chose to focus on healthy individuals, and challenged himself to understand how they achieved such amazing health.

Parenting Resource :

• Simply on Purpose – Bringing joy back into parenting and family life. Believer in kitchen dance parties. Look for the good. Audio Course + Webinars.
• The Child Whisperer Blog – Every child is unique. The Child Whisperer book and podcast help you customize your parenting, for more joy and cooperation with less burnout.
• A Thomas Jefferson Education – Support, Resources and Mentoring to establish
  your ideal Family Education Culture.

Parenting Books:

• Hold on to Your kids In Hold On to Your Kids, Dr. Neufeld and Dr. Maté explore the phenomenon of peer orientation: the troubling tendency of children and youth to look to their peers for direction – for a sense of right and wrong, for values, identity and codes of behavior. But peer orientation undermines family cohesion, poisons the school atmosphere, and fosters an aggressively hostile and sexualized youth culture. It provides a powerful explanation for schoolyard bullying and youth violence; it is an escalating trend that has never been adequately described or contested until Hold On to Your Kids. Once understood, it becomes self-evident – as do the solutions.
• How to talk so kids will listen and listen so kids will talk (there is a teen version as well) – Enthusiastically praised by parents and professionals around the world, Faber and Mazlish’s down-to-earth, respectful approach makes relationships with children of all ages less stressful and more rewarding. 
• Wild Things: The Art of Nurturing Boys – Addresses the physical, emotional, and spiritual parts of a boy, written by two therapists who are currently engaged in clinical work with boys and their parents and who are also fathers raising five sons. This book contains chapters such as “Sit Still! Pay Attention!”, “Deficits and Disappointments”, and “Rituals, Ceremonies, and Rites of Passage”.

Self Development: 

• Dressing Your Truth – Will help you know your truth and create a personal style that tells the world, “This is who I really am.” When you discover your Type of beauty, amazing things happen. You understand yourself better. You find strengths you didn’t know you had. And you can express who you are with a style to match. It’s a transformative process.
• Alicia Kathleen Emotional Freedom Coaching – (website is under construction, find her on Instagram HERE) 1:1 Coaching, Empowering women to master their emotions and thoughts to show up as their best selves and heal their life experiences.

Self Development Books:

• Remembering Wholeness -In this 20-Year Anniversary Edition, Carol shares two decades of added insight — with new sections added to the original book. Each updated chapter shares new insight, along with personal lessons from putting this book’s principles into practice. It will help you do the same, so that you can let go of struggle and live a life of joy.
• 12 Rules for Life – Jordan Peterson – Dr. Peterson journeys broadly, discussing discipline, freedom, adventure, and responsibility, distilling the world’s wisdom into 12 practical and profound rules for life. 12 Rules for Life shatters the modern commonplaces of science, faith, and human nature while transforming and ennobling the mind and spirit of it’s readers.

In addition to discovering new resources to support your goals, and this might sound like common sense, I have to mention how much I believe our health affects everything we do. If you know me, you know I am passionate about mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual health. I have been on quite the healthy journey and I can tell you that the years I spent being sick and mostly bed-bound, were not the years I was able to do many things I really wanted, and had to simplify and only do what really mattered to me. Using this method, my new year resolutions were more along the lines of “read more books with my children”, and “Meet Steve at the door each day with a kiss when he gets home”.

I wouldn’t be me if I didn’t mention how much eating nutrient-dense, truly clean animal-based diet has improved my life, because it was the key to improving my health. Having my health back has given me a beautifully fresh perspective on my role as a woman, mother, wife and individual. And I can confidently say that health supports every aspect of my life, and I think it’s safe to say yours, too.

I hope you are feeling excited about the upcoming year and have beautiful, ambitious goals that you can get excited about. Remember, that as you set goals, don’t overwhelm yourself and don’t force what you aren’t ready for. There are things we want and there are things we are actually ready for. Listen to the spirit and you will know which is which. When you are truly ready, those things will fall into place with greater ease than those things you are trying to force.

You’re amazing. And I can’t wait to hear all about your New Year’s resolutions!

3 EASY Steps to Seriously Nutrient-Dense Meals (+ Recipes!)

When you hear “family meal” what comes to mind?

Do you imagine a family happily gathered at the table with a 3-course meal? Or does it make you think of figuring out what to feed your family (again) and have you thinking about what you “should” be feeding them, worrying about all the crap in today’s food that you’d almost rather feed them nothing than put more junk in their bodies? No?

I know from personal experience just how overwhelming it can be to make a meal for your family when you’re busy, have a big family, or just don’t know what else to make! After years of feeding my children all the things under the sun, I’ve figured out 3 steps to seriously nutrient-dense meals and I want to share it will you because this will save you so much time and energy AND provide the people you love most with the nutrition their bodies need. 

And I promise, it’s so simple. (I’ve even included a few of our favorite meals!)

Step 1: Make quality meat the center of the meal.

Step 2: Include lots of good, healthy fat.

Step 3: Salt it well.

Meals don’t have to be a banquet! Nutritious meals can be very simple. Sometimes, we sit down for dinner and just have roast and butter, and sometimes the kids put BBQ sauce on it. 

Does that sound crazy to you? It sounded crazy to me too. Where are the veggies and carbs? Where are all the food groups?!

Of course, you can add those if you want, BUT if you only did these three things your meals would still be packed with nutrition. 

1. Make quality meat the center of the meal.

You already know how passionate I am about food freedom, and as long as you know what’s in your food you can make an educated decision. If you choose to eat plant-based or lab-grown meat, that’s you’re right. But while you’re here, let me tell you a little more about why we choose pasture-finished meat for our family.  

Most people don’t know there’s a difference between pasture-finished meat and grain-finished meat. Our society is used to grain-finished meat and it can take some people a minute to adjust to the stronger meat flavor and the level of tenderness that is pasture-finished meat. Pasture-finished meat has a higher nutritional profile and will support all levels of your body’s function in ways no other protein can. 

Pasture-raised and finished meats are the highest quality meat available. If you include this nutrient-dense protein in your meals, you’re already ahead of the game in terms of long-term health and sustenance.

2. Include lots of good, healthy fat.

Fat provides energy. Not the short-term kind of energy burst you get from carbohydrates, but a longer-lasting fuel source for your body to function on. Fat will help you feel more satiated and less hungry.

Grass-fed butter, cheese, tallow or lard (corn & soy-free are best for your body) are what our family uses most.

Get your vitamins A, D, E, and K2 from a natural source. Your fat-soluble vitamins make all the minerals you consume work the way they’re supposed to. When you don’t have those vitamins you might be getting nutrients from other places, but the vitamins you get from good, healthy fats help your body absorb nutrients and use them. 

3. Salt it well.

Salt has minerals and is necessary for good health! I know this sounds contrary to mainstream health advice, but much evidence proves the contrary. You want to consume fat and salt together for optimal efficiency. (mmmm… salted butter!) Not regular table salt though, but sea salt like Baja Gold or Redmonds Real Salt. 

Did you know sea water has the exact same 90 minerals and balance that your blood does? When we have a good quality mineral salt, we are building our blood and making our bodies a more alkaline ph (meaning making it more disease resistant!) 

Good minerals and salt is what we depend on for the health of our animals and always the first thing we go to if they experience any imbalance. It holds true for humans too! 

Keep your meals simple and nutritious.

Pick your meat.

Pick your fat.

Salt it well.

If you’re skeptical, I encourage you to at least try it! See what you think and how you feel. You can always add your favorite veggies and carbs as sides, but please don’t overthink it. 

As promised, here are 3 nutrition-packed meals we really enjoy…

[RECIPE 1: Roast and Squash] Add your frozen 1984 Farms beef chuck roast to your slow cooker. Add in desired seasonings like salt, pepper, garlic and onion. Set on low and let cook for 6-8 hours. An hour before your roast is done, prepare your preferred winter squash. Pre-heat oven to 400 degrees. Cut in half, scoop out the seeds, place on baking sheet and roast in the oven for about 45 minutes or until it is fork tender and browning. Serve with lots of butter and salt! Simple yet so delicious!

[RECIPE 2: Simplest Burgers and Fries] Mix 1 pound of 1984 ground beef with 1 egg or 1/8 cup of rendered tallow/lard, salt, and pepper. Form into patties and cook in a skillet or on the grill. Bring a pot of water to a boil while you peel and cut red potatoes into fry shapes. Place in boiling water for 5 minutes. Drain and pat dry. Heat a cup of tallow/lard in a deep saucepan or frying pan. Once hot, add sliced potatoes and cook until desired golden brown. remove from pan to paper towels and salt liberally. Pull out your condiments – pickles, mustard, ketchup, whatever you have on hand – no buns necessary.

[RECIPE 3: Cheesy Squash Bake] Prepare your acorn or butternut squash like you would in the roast and squash recipe. Brown, salt, and chop 1 lb of 1984 ground beef. Peel and slice 1-2 apples. Scoop out all the squash leaving the shells intact. Mix squash, beef, and apples together then fill the squash shells. Shred raw cheese and make a a good layer on the top of each filled squash. Bake in 375 degree oven for 45 minutes or until cheese is bubbly and golden brown.

What do you think? Would your family go for this? Can you think of quality meat-centered meals you’d like to try? Tell me on Instagram, or send me an email!

5 Reasons America NEEDS Strong Fathers

It’s sad that fathers get a bad rap in mainstream media. 

Men are inherently wise, instinctive, fiercely protective and we need them. 

Statistics show that crime rates are directly related to whether a child was raised with or without a father. “According to the National Center for Fathering and The Fatherless Generation, 85% of youths in prison come from fatherless homes, and 71% of high school dropouts come from fatherless homes. The Center for Disease Control reports that 90% of all homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes, which is 32 times the average.”

To say families need fathers is an understatement. 

This Father’s Day, we want to recognize the men who have stepped up to be Fathers and do their best to take care of their families and share 5 reasons America needs strong fathers.

A Strong Father Plays With His Children

It may make mom a little nervous, but roughhousing with dad is important to a child’s development. Play, whether it’s wrestling or competitive sports, builds resilience, teaches them to manage their emotions, and how to “bounce back” from disappointment and frustration. 

Here’s a really great resource to learn more about this important part of the development of children: The Importance of Roughhousing With Your Kids

A Strong Father Provides

He offers up physical sacrifice when he gets out of bed before he’s fully rested, leaving those most important to him to do whatever has to be done to keep the bills paid and the mouth fed. He prioritizes his family over ego and comfort. A father doesn’t have to make a lot of money but he chooses his family over material things. He provides for his family first then toys come after. 

He also provides love. Fathers aren’t always known for their emotions, but he is a deeply loving person. They have very strong emotions but show them differently than a mother. There’s no greater thought on his heart than those he loves and wants to serve. His heart breaks with his children when they’re in pain or in distress and he shows them how to be stronger. 

A Strong Father Protects His Family

He protects both physically and emotionally. He teaches his children about the pitfalls around them and how to protect themselves. A mother teaches to be compassionate while a father teaches children how to protect themselves physically and emotionally, not be taken advantage of, and how to set boundaries. 

It used to be the main way a father protected his family, from physical danger, predators, and other threats to their survival. Fathers have had to fight in wars (and still do). Today, fathers still protect on a daily basis and while we may not be under as much physical danger, a father fiercely protects his family spiritually, mentally, and emotionally. 

When a child cries on the shoulder of his father, there is safety and an opportunity for healing that only a father can provide

A Strong Father Establishes Order

He is firm and the epitome of” tough love”. Mothers are gifted to be more emotional and fathers are more objectionable. They don’t look at things through emotional filters, they see what is and what needs to be done. They teach their children to do the same. 

He is strong, steady, and immovable while still being a patient and kind leader. He faces fears head-on and leads by example. 

A Strong Father is Honest and Works For What He Has

The influence of a father is impossible to measure, but we do have enough information to know that children that grow up in a home with an honest father have a stronger moral compass and are much less likely to engage in illegal activities. 

Fathers set an example of hard work, sacrifice, and delayed gratification. They teach their children the value of contributing to their homes and communities, and to give more than they take. 

At 1984Farms we strive to support your right as a father to 1) Raise your children in a way that feels right to you, 2) Live your life so you can do what you feel called to do, and 3) Have access to food that you don’t have to worry about! 

Thank you to the men who strive to play, protect, provide, establish order, and instill integrity within their families. 
Do you know a man like this? Consider sharing this with him and letting him know how much you appreciate and admire his strength and dedication.

5 Reasons America Needs Strong Mothers

Why do we celebrate mothers? Are they really that important? 

Yes. Yes. Yes!

America needs strong mothers because of the way she raises her children and who they become. It is common for great leaders to attribute their success, development, and character to their mothers. Abraham Lincoln is quoted to say, “All that I am, or hope to be, I owe to my angel mother.”

Mother allowing her toddler to collect eggs

A strong mother raises children who are emotionally resilient and strong leaders. They know how to think vs what to think; using common sense and promoting individualism.

A strong mother doesn’t just give to her own children, but she is a mother to all who come into her awareness. This develops strong communities.

The world needs strong mothers. And right now, America needs them more than ever!

We could never count all the ways mothers contribute to the development of her children or the way she influences her community, but this Mother’s Day, I want to focus on 5 reasons America needs strong mothers!

A strong mother lets her children fail.

When a mother lets her children fail, she allows them to develop reasoning, insight, and how to think through problems. Failing allows her children to develop resilience. Instead of swooping in and taking care of everything, she lets them experience hard things in their lives. She teaches reconciliation, how to correct and improve. If a child doesn’t experience failure, he can develop a sense of entitlement and not understand consequences and cause and effect. 

A strong mother looks for the good.

She is the keeper of hope and faith in a better tomorrow. She doesn’t get swept away in despair and fear. She finds the silver lining on even the darkest cloud. She sees through the mistakes, weaknesses, and phases of her children and recognizes the good and potential in them. She finds the beauty in the ashes and knows that even when things are really hard there’s a lesson to learn, and a brighter tomorrow just waiting. 

A strong mother is not swayed by fleeting trends of society:

Mothers who stay steadfast are beacons of light to their children and model standing for what is right.

America needs mothers who are willing to follow the truth instead of fleeting trends of society; mothers who stay steadfast and are beacons of light to their children and model standing for what is right.  A strong mother holds to traditional values of accountability, respect, and contribution. A strong mother knows that it’s her job to pass on truth to her children and in order to do, she needs to know and understand it. She has a broad, liberal arts education. She studies great thinkers and history. A strong mother creates strong families. With trends continuing to pull families apart mothers – strong mothers – bring and keep them together.

A strong mother embraces Womanhood:

A strong mother knows her value as a woman and does not feel the need to compete with men. She understands how men and women need and complete each other. She firmly defends truth and is fulfilled with her purpose as a woman. She is industrious in her home and pursues her dreams and ambitions outside her home. While she has roles and passion as an individual, she achieves them while prizing her time with her family above everything else. She knows that her greatest calling is being a mother. She knows that shaping her children into strong and capable leaders is one of her greatest contributions to society. 

A strong mother is accountable.

She holds herself and her children accountable. She rights the wrongs she has done. She is honest with herself and those around her and she teaches her children to do the same. She doesn’t make excuses for her behavior but takes ownership of her thoughts and actions. 

A mother is intentional about how she interacts with her children.

She knows who she is and is aware of her dark sides. She chooses to learn and grow. She doesn’t let the darkness consume her. She chooses good. She understands her weaknesses, fault, and limitations. She allows God to make them strengths. She is intentional about how she interacts with her children. This doesn’t mean she’s perfect – but she is quick to apologize and correct her mistakes. She is firm and kind. She disciplines vs punishes. This looks like being able to stay objective and keep emotion out of the situation and teaches her children to do the same. 

I hope you know strong mothers like this. Maybe you even thought of your own mother. 

If you are a mother, do these qualities ring true for you?

At 1984Farms we strive to support your right to raise your children in a way that feels right to you, live your life so you can do what you feel called to do, and have access to food that is best for you! 

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This is vital to the growth and well-being of your children

I wish I could go back and tell my sick, struggling, 25-year-old self that everything will turn out wonderfully.  She was in the thick of raising children and her body was shutting down. 

I wish I could tell her that she’s more than capable of accomplishing the things on her heart, even as doctors couldn’t find answers to why she was so sick. 

I would tell her she’s going to figure it out because she’s smart, intuitive, and faithful. 

I wish I could tell her over and over that there’s not just one way to a wonderful life, and that she’s doing a great job. 

I would say the same thing to my daughter, my best friends and I’m saying it to you. 

I know you don’t often feel seen and appreciated as a homemaker, but I want you to know – from the depths of my soul – just how irreplaceable you are. You are intuitive and industrious. I know the work you are doing at home is the most valuable work you can do. If you can embrace and understand that, I can say without a doubt, there is no limit to what you and your family can achieve. 

I can’t emphasize enough – our roles as parents are vital to the growth and well-being of our children. It may not always feel like the most rewarding or appreciated aspect of family life, but I promise you, what you are doing is invaluable. 

As I’ve homeschooled for the past 15 years. I’ve been learning right alongside my children. 

I’ve learned that success comes from so much more than the curriculum you chose. (It doesn’t matter if you use Teaching Textbooks or Saxon – I promise.)

What matters is that you do what you feel is right for your family. 

I will repeat that until I’m blue in the face. 

The education of our children is our responsibility as parents, and for good reason…

No one is more invested in the health and development of your child than you. 

I am grateful to live in a place that protects educational freedoms, where we can take ownership for the dreams and visions we have for our family. 

I think true freedom is having space to take ownership of your life; to instill in your children values that are most important to your family and to empower your child to live up to his God-given potential. 

If I could have you over for lunch and a play date, I would listen to your discoveries and concerns with each child… you would tell me what you’ve tried and what you think might be best. I would be amazed at how bright and dedicated you are to your child’s development. I might share some things I have learned along the way. And most importantly, I would remind you that you’re doing a great job. 

Because you are.

You are extraordinary!

I have been thinking a lot about you and what I can do to empower your call to homeschool.

(And this is totally for you even if you’re already homeschooling and want a boost of confidence!)

I really want to support you, and I do have some experience in this area, so I put together a Homeschool Checklist that has nothing to do with curriculum. 

If you want a boost of confidence, go get your free homeschool checklist! 

Don’t let all the curriculum choices overwhelm you.

You can do this. 

You are intuitive and capable of figuring it out.

Please feel free to ask me any questions you have! You can find me here, but I’m most active on Instagram!  Click here to find 1984Farms on Instagram.